Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

  • Berrett-Koehler Publishers (2009年10月16日発売)
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感想 : 8


A. How it get in the box?
Feeling: "Get up and tend to David so Nancy can sleep"
1. Honor it
2. Betray it "Self-betrayal"

How I started to see my self?
Victim, Hardworking, Important, Fair, Sensitive, Good dad, God husband
How I started to see Nancy?
Lazy, Inconsiderate, Unappreciative, Insensitive, Faker, Lousy mom, Lousy wife

Lack of commitment
Lack of engagement
Trouble making
Lack of motivation
Poor teamwork
Backbiting/ bad attitudes
Lack of trust
Lack of accountability
Communication problems

B. How we get out of the box?

What doesn't work in the box
1. Trying to change others
2. Doing my best to "cope" with others
3. Leaving
4. Communicating
5. Implementing new skills or techniques
6. Changing my behavior

Knowing the material
Self-betrayal leads to self-deception and "the box".
When you're in the box, you can't focus on results
Your influence and success will depend on bing out of the box
You get out of the box as you cease resisting other people

Living the material
Don't try to be perfect. Do try to be better.
Don't use the vocabulary - "the box", and so on - with people who don't already know it.
Do use the principles in your own life
Don't look for others' boxes. Do look for your own.
Don't accuse others of being in the box. Do try to stay out of the box yourself.
Don't give up on yourself when you discover you've been in the box. Do keep trying.
Don't deny that you've been in the box when you have been. Do apologize; then just keep marching forward, trying to be more helpful to others in the future.
Don't focus on what others are doing wrong. Do focus on what you can do right to help.
Don't worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others.

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感想投稿日 : 2010年9月17日
読了日 : 2010年9月10日
本棚登録日 : 2010年9月10日


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